Sunday, September 27, 2015

How to get an introvert to open up to you

I think that when some people notice a shy or quiet person some people believe they can just tell the person to be more "talkative". That's not exactly the greatest method since most people would not suddenly become more talkative because they are told so, especially if being quiet or shy is what they been for a very long time. So, how do you get a person to open up to you?

Smile
Smiling is one of the easiest ways to make people like being around you. Once a person is used to the idea of your presence, its a bit easier for them to open up to you.

Trust
When you gain a persons trust they are more likely to open up to you. Trust is gained in different ways depending on the person. Trust can be shown through helping a person or doing something nice. Protecting a person is always a good way.

Opening up to the person
Sometimes when you open up to a person you can get a person to feel more comfortable with you. A good way to open up to the person is through a story that may be short, funny, or recent. When you open up to someone, they can get to know you and find a way to connect to you and in return the person might share a story as well.

Listen
If you want someone to open up to you, you better take the time to listen to what they have to say. Don't always try to be the one that dominate conversations. Sometimes, you just have to let others control the topics of conversations and provide their inputs.

Be a friend
It's easier to open up to people when you know they are on your side and not working against you. Exhibit enthusiasm and do things with the person and not just talk to them on occasion. Catch up with the person and be genuinely interested in getting to know that person. It's much easier to talk to someone when you get to know them and what they like or don't.

Understanding interests and experiences
I really believe that one of the easiest ways to connect to a person is through a common interest or hobby. It's so easy for people to tell you what they like or not like. That's a good start.

Also, each person has their own story of life that shaped who they are today. If you are able to understand some of their story, you might also understand their behavior, common phrases, as well as likes and dislikes. You may not have had similar experiences, but you can sympathize and be there for the person.

In short, the process of having someone open up to you is not short and effortless. Some people may choose to keep secrets and respect opinions of others. But, there is always a way to connect with someone and sometimes it takes time and work. It's not merely a matter of stating problems or getting someone to change. Sometimes the effort has to come from both sides.

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