Sunday, September 27, 2015

How to get an introvert to open up to you

I think that when some people notice a shy or quiet person some people believe they can just tell the person to be more "talkative". That's not exactly the greatest method since most people would not suddenly become more talkative because they are told so, especially if being quiet or shy is what they been for a very long time. So, how do you get a person to open up to you?

Smiling is one of the easiest ways to make people like being around you. Once a person is used to the idea of your presence, its a bit easier for them to open up to you.

When you gain a persons trust they are more likely to open up to you. Trust is gained in different ways depending on the person. Trust can be shown through helping a person or doing something nice. Protecting a person is always a good way.

Opening up to the person
Sometimes when you open up to a person you can get a person to feel more comfortable with you. A good way to open up to the person is through a story that may be short, funny, or recent. When you open up to someone, they can get to know you and find a way to connect to you and in return the person might share a story as well.

If you want someone to open up to you, you better take the time to listen to what they have to say. Don't always try to be the one that dominate conversations. Sometimes, you just have to let others control the topics of conversations and provide their inputs.

Be a friend
It's easier to open up to people when you know they are on your side and not working against you. Exhibit enthusiasm and do things with the person and not just talk to them on occasion. Catch up with the person and be genuinely interested in getting to know that person. It's much easier to talk to someone when you get to know them and what they like or don't.

Understanding interests and experiences
I really believe that one of the easiest ways to connect to a person is through a common interest or hobby. It's so easy for people to tell you what they like or not like. That's a good start.

Also, each person has their own story of life that shaped who they are today. If you are able to understand some of their story, you might also understand their behavior, common phrases, as well as likes and dislikes. You may not have had similar experiences, but you can sympathize and be there for the person.

In short, the process of having someone open up to you is not short and effortless. Some people may choose to keep secrets and respect opinions of others. But, there is always a way to connect with someone and sometimes it takes time and work. It's not merely a matter of stating problems or getting someone to change. Sometimes the effort has to come from both sides.

Saturday, September 26, 2015

Hiking to Horsetail Falls

I haven't been hiking in a while, so Horsetails Falls was a good experience to get out of my regularly work schedule and stress. I found out about Horsetail Falls through Xeng. We were initially going to go to Fairy Falls, but Xeng heard it was haunted, so she suggested we go to Horsetail Falls instead. Despite my busy schedule and only getting two hours of sleep, I managed to drive us to Twin Peaks this morning as the sun was rising. I'm glad that I had a cup of tea in hand for whenever I felt exhausted. I hated how the sun was so bright at certain points though.

I was so glad that I didn't have to drive through the cliff area this time around. That is definitely one thing I always hate about going to Lake Tahoe. I'm also glad that there was a parking lot. But, it did cost us $5.00 for parking. As we walked towards the trail, we noticed that there were bathrooms there, but they really stunk, so it doesn't seem that it's cleaned often. It was nice that the trail signs were noticeable and right off the parking lot.

The hike didn't start off to hard. We walked for a few minutes and reached the first waterfall. It was a tiny waterfall, but it was nice to see water so soon.

After walking for a few more minutes after the first tiny hike, we saw an even bigger waterfall. I was surprised by the amount of water. But, I think there's more water during other seasons.

Me and Xeng decided to walk further to look for a bigger and more special waterfall. One our way there, we spotted another waterfall. I really that the water there was so clear. I couldn't help, but touch it.

As we kept walking further, we noticed that there was hiking sign on trees that told us which direction to go. I thought that was very helpful. However, there would be times when we would walk and there would be no sign around. Me and Xeng didn't see anyone on the trail until we made our way back, which we thought was weird. We kept on walking, but we didn't know if she should go further or not because the map that we found said that we were 0.5 miles away from Horsetails Falls, but we believed we walked past that and didn't see it.

We didn't end up seeing some of the sights that we posted on some sites. However, me and Xeng both and agreed that we wouldn't mind doing the hike again and looking for it. This is one of the hikes that I really enjoyed. I would go to it again and again. And, I don't say that to many hikes that I've done before.

I loved the views that we saw. It was so nice. I'm going to keep this hike on my list of hikes to do in the distant future. Until then, I hope to experience great hikes like this one.

Monday, September 7, 2015

Lands End Trail & Brief Trip around San Francisco

I made a trip to San Francisco a few weeks ago because I wanted to go somewhere before things got to busy for me.
I just started school for the semester and didn't have any tests or major homework assignments yet.

I been to San Francisco before, but there's still so much more I wanted to do and don't know about yet. My friend who came also hasn't explored much of San Francisco yet.

For the day, me and my friend went to eat dim sum at Good luck Dim Sum. It was a cheap restaurant that you can go and check off which dim sum you want and all of the food is already cooked. I heard the pork buns there was good and I had my friend tried it and he loved it. I also tried a bun with meat in it and I don't think I had it anywhere else. Our total was about $11.00 and we had about 4 different items. Great deal. I definitely would go back and wish there was a place like that in Sacramento.

After eating, we headed to Purple Kow. It was about a 15 minute drive. I never liked driving in San Francisco because of all the hills and places that I have to stop. When we arrived I parked in the usual spot that I go to when I'm around the area. About 15 minutes in, I realized I wasn't supposed to park there because they did street cleaning on those days and around that time. Luckily, I moved my car and didn't get a ticket.

I had my friend order one of the boba drinks. He really liked it. He usually doesn't like boba drinks because he think most of the places are bitter, but he liked Purplekow and he said he would go back.

After Purplekow, we headed to Japantown. My friend looked at knives, but decided not to get it.  I really wanted my friend to get something from there, but he didn't seem interested in getting anything. We did have the karrage chicken, which he thought was delicious. When we were about to leave, we walked around one of the shops at Japantown and my friend finally found something he liked. He found the small music boxes that plays classical music from artists like Beethoven. I thought that was a great item and got one myself too.

I havent been to Land's End before, but decided to go after Japantown. I was surprised that you can see the beach right from the parking lot. But, getting to the beach from the parking lot was a bit harder than it looked since you had to go down the stairs and walk on the decayed remains of Sutro baths.

We decided to head to Eagle's point first, which was one of the farthest destinations from Sutro baths. It wasn't too far in distance though. While trying to find Eagle's Point, we had some good views of the Golden Gate Bridge. I prefer views of the bridge from afar because I think it looks better farther away. I seen the bridge up close and drove on it and it's not as appealing to me up close.

I was happy that it was sunny enough for us to get a good view of the Golden Gate bridge. I noticed that it was started to get foggy and that clouds were blowing towards us. We ended up at the end of the trail, but there was not Eagle's Point. We somehow passed i, so we turned back. Luckily, it wasn't a long way back. We realized that we were suppose to take the stairs down to Eagle Point, rather than up the stairs on the right.

I realized we made it to Eagle's Point when we had a good view of the beach. When we got there, we noticed that there was a small statute near the end of the mountain. I also noticed the circle of rocks where a lot of people I knew had there pictures taken.

It was very foggy and windy. The fog that I saw earlier had finally reached where we were. Nonetheless, it was still a good view.

I hope to visit Land's End again. Hopefully, it won't be foggy and windy next time around. Also, I hope to do more things I haven't done there. Until next time, SF!